You can’t explain social media, twitter, networking or online connecting to someone who has never done it and expect them to get it. It is an experience, kinda like a Grateful Dead concert. (Ok, that was a strange comparison, but still apt).
Fundamentally, these are the basic principals I’ve experienced while connecting online:
- Be there
- Care about your community (an idea from Gary Vaynerchuk)
- Selling CAN NOT be your priority.
- Participate as a real, 3-D human. That must be your priority.
- Don’t BS or lie: You can be clear about who you represent, but please don’t make that the only reason you are there.
You can’t just show up and tweet or blog about something you have to sell. Just like commericals on TiVo, we’ll fast forward through those and continue on with our conversations about wine, bacon, NPR, technology, Sonoma County chocolates, …you get the idea. Join the conversation.
Care. So many options here. Participate in the conversation, add something interesting, valuable, conversational. Research your community: what do they care about? What do they talk about? Caveman Wines recently posted an elegantly simple reminder to people pitching to bloggers: know your audience! That’s caring. Humanitas Wines cares by giving back to communities where their wine is purchased. That’s caring. Forget about selling and invest your time, energy and $ into caring. That may seem counter-intuitive, but I’m telling you, it is the social business model for the 21st century.
Selling is so out. But buying is still in…we just don’t trust advertisers any more! Really, at all! Reuters posted this article this week about tech companies turning to social media to reach consumers. It said “These social networking sites harness the age-old power of the word-of-mouth recommendation and can be potent marketing tools. If nothing else, they demand a higher level of consumer engagement than conventional ads.” Recommendations from people we know and trust is how 78% of us connect with a product we’re looking for. (from What the F**K is Social Media) No more billboard, shouting, passive audience selling. That’s so 20th Century. That’s so over.
Instead, participate, have conversations, engage with groups, connect. It will take longer, metrics may be more difficult to accumulate and measure, but you will have impact. You will garner trust. You will cultivate a groundswell of support for a brand that will then sell itself. That is of course assuming you have something of high quality for a low price and more to contribute to making the world a better place.
Don’t lie. You can’t fake this. The scrutiny of the clan will uncover any disingenuous participants. And they will talk about you, honestly, ruthlessly to everyone. Ask Motrin about the internet wildfire it started with a bad idea. Really, the internet community is savvy, meticulous, and VERY interested in the truth. The best part is, you’ll get honesty in return. So I hope you want to know the truth. Either way, you’ll get it. You’re better off if you give it. People appreciate honesty.
Let’s put it this way, you really aren’t in charge of your message that much any more. Reuters had this to say: “”Historically, companies have been really focused on controlling the information they disseminate … and the fact is that’s dying…“. What that means to me is that you’d better have a great product at a great price (period) We LOVE great stuff at great prices…and we’ll tell everyone we’re connected to about it! And with the help of blogging, twitter, facebook, etc, that is literally hundreds of thousands of people, instantly. The rewards will be well beyond what you imagined.
Being a fan of simple elegance, I had to offer this video in the post as well. It is the best tool out there that comes even close to explaining twitter to someone who has no idea what the online social thing is about. Still, I’d say just do it.




It is really funny to me to see people interested in social media but either look at it as a quick fix or something that can be slightly dabbled in when it suits their needs. So many people miss the boat on social media and the right way to use it. Most are going to end up coming to the dance too late or only using it as a reactionary tool…
A great explanation! Honestly, I didn’t get it until I dove in, and even now I am not sure that I could explain it to someone. Especially living in the PR world (no, it’s ok, I don’t bite), it is nearly impossible to respond to a client that creating a blog won’t immediately make that blog popular. As a consumer I love it. Never before has their been as many product reviews to help people make a choice, although sometimes perception sweeps people away more than fact does.
Me too, Rob! I just started the whole thing based on recommendations, and suggestions i.e. from Gary Vaynerchuk and my own curiosity. And that’s what really drove me to dive in, my curiosity. But the field is wide open and there are so many different ways to connect and engage once you do dive in. I think anyone can succeed in social networking who has any interest in their subject, people, the world, etc!
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Girl, you are readin’ my mind!
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Cheers!
Excellent. Thanks. And every day, whether we are reviewing wines, hospitality or social media’s impact…another tangible piece of evidence crops up to explain, define and invite people into the pool. The water’s warm folks, everyone in!
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